It’s Monday – and this one is for motivation and memories.
I had such an awesome Thanksgiving weekend up in Rochester, NY with my husband, my sister and her boyfriend, and my sister’s boyfriend’s family. Great food, football, National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation, and more. And the day after Thanksgiving, my fellow classmates and I gathered for our 10 year high school reunion. 10 years! I can hardly believe it.
I wasn’t even sure if I would go to the reunion, but I actually ended up helping out with the plans. Once I was on board, I went a little nuts. I suggested lots of games, decorations, and activities for our classmates to do. I have a tendency to do that. To go overboard. It took my fellow planners (who happen to be friends) to take me down from crazy town… and I’m glad. Because for every good idea I had, there was also a lot more work involved. During the holidays, I usually create more work for myself. Using the old school days phrase: KISS or Keep it Simple, Stupid needs to be my new motto right now. As a perfectionist and overachiever, the goals I set for myself are so high that they are unattainable… and I often set myself up for great results, but a feeling of defeat. I’ve always been this way – even in high school! Obviously, not much has changed. But then again, a lot has.
I actually spoke at my high school graduation. I don’t think that young 18 year old girl with hopes of being an actress and marrying a foreign (possibly Italian?) lover and raising kids who spoke four languages because we traveled the world in a glamorous yacht would believe who she’s become. Have you ever sat down to think about how much has changed since you graduated high school? If you’re like me and it’s been a few years, it’s a little surreal. High school seems like it was both yesterday, and a 100 years ago. In the past 10 years, I have:
- Moved to NYC
- Worked full time and went to school full time, and somehow graduated
- Had my first drink
- Dated a few choice men
- Married my favorite person (Not Italian. He’s from Ohio.)
- Worked at a family run boutique, a large chain retail shop, the most famous store on Fifth Avenue, sold a $600 bra, and appeared on TV
- Left one job on terrible terms, only to return to the same company over 5 years later and now have one of the highest positions and am one of the most trusted employees in that company
- Moved apartments too many freaking times
- Had a great roommate, terrible roommates, bed bugs, mice, been robbed, and had the cops take me home to avoid a creepy man
- Had shingles too many freaking times
- Discovered my own style
- Sang at Carnegie Hall
- Performed with Karen O and the Yeah Yeah Yeahs, and the Greenhorns
- Sang in a NJ rock band
- Adopted my most favorite cat in the whole wide world
- Traveled to Japan on my own
- Took my health into my own hands
- Made mistakes, learned from them, and grown.
I mean, that’s a short bullet point list. There’s a lot more that I’ve done or been through. And as impressive as that list may be, it’s not so incredulous. I guarantee that you can make your own impressive list. Think back in the past 10 years, and start listing the big, obvious things that you’ve accomplished. Then start digging deeper and really think about what you’ve survived, how you’ve thrived, and who you’ve become. It’s an easy way to impress yourself, or to remind yourself that it’s time for a change.
Two days after our reunion, I got a call from a classmate’s younger sister who is planning their class’s reunion in 2014. She said her brother had a great time at ours and wanted to ask my advice on organizing it, keeping track, decorations, event spaces, etc. As we talked, I kept coming up with great ideas and thought “ugh, why didn’t we do that?” or “I wanted to do that for our reunion but my idea was shot down!” and had to remind myself, “Kim… the reunion happened already, without any of those extra things, and it was a great.” I encouraged her to keep it simple and provide a space and a few fun things for her classmates to do … and not to over think it. Getting together after 10 years and reminiscing about how far you’ve all come is impressive enough. And when you think about it, it really is.
Here are a few fun things that we planned for the reunion: photo booth area with props (from The Prop Market) and a hashtag banner (from Boxed & Bowed) raffles (including alcohol from my friend’s work, a gift basket from my work, a Kindle Fire, iPod shuffle, and a few items from a favorite local grocery store Wegmans), and food and drink. We were lucky that one classmate’s mom kept a boat load of old photos and a large banner signed by everyone in our class from our Senior Bash for display.
Had so much fun with my old friends and even made a few new ones! Who knew?!
Have you gone to or are you going to your 10 year high school reunion? Do you think they’re worth going to? How far have you come in the last 10 years? Give yourself some credit… I bet you’ve come a long way.