Top Three Tips for Creative Entrepreneurs {Video}

Top three tips for creative entrepreneurs Hurray Kimmay TV .jpgThis year has been a real whirlwind. I did not know that I would start my own business, be my own boss, or totally change directions. Yet, here I am doing it, and it feels amazing! One of my favorite things about being an entrepreneur is meeting other young boss ladies like myself.

One such lady is Elisa Pupko, the founder and lead teaching artist at Treasure Trunk Theatre. You may recognize Elisa from a few of my Braducational Videos and press appearances (looove that bathing suit she’s wearing from Seafolly!), because I first met Elisa when I hired her as a model. Flash forward and here we both are with our own businesses! Elisa is still a performing artist, actress, and model but her children’s theatre classes unexpectedly grew this summer because of her resourcefulness and a little known movie called “Frozen.”

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In this episode of Hurray Kimmay TV, I ask Elisa how she got the idea to start her business, why she has changed her classes and offerings based on her customers’ needs, and for her top three tips for other entrepreneurs. It’s all here – just press play!

Are you an entrepreneur, too? What are your tips? Want to meet up so we can create a strong network of us boss ladies? Let’s connect! Email me at kimmay (at) hurraykimmay (dot) com or @hurraykimmay!

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Let’s Go Wild

Hurray for big changes and big plans! Recently I’ve have been making huge strides in my life – especially in the business department. I’m really going for it, folks. And I’m thrilled :D

Wild Woman Fest 2014

In my quest to be my own boss, to help women feel great on the inside, outside and underneath it all™ I am swapping my hours in the bra fitting shop for hours focused on Hurray Kimmay and Hurray Media LLC. That’s right – I’m now my own boss, and I’m working for myself 100%! HURRRRRRRAY! As part of my new found freedom, I have the time to travel, learn, connect and reach out…and WORK. In August, I’ll be going to Long Beach, CA (my first time EVER in California) to the Shaklee global conference for learning, growing and connecting. And next weekend I’m attending the Wild Woman Fest!

You may remember my second ever Hurray Kimmay TV episode was interviewing Chris Maddox and Limor Hakim. Chris is the founder and leader of the Wild Woman Project, and Limor is a Wild Woman Moon Circle leader. Now the project is expanding to the first ever Wild Woman Fest – a four day extravaganza in the Berkshires to soak in nature and connect with each other and with our own wild selves. As they state “Our aim of this festival is to give women the opportunity to experience a different part of themselves – a part of self which is perhaps more free, more raw, more connected to the rhythm of nature.”

I’m looking forward to yoga, vision boarding, fresh air, female empowerment, and a good old fashioned time out from the city life. I’m looking forward to expanding, to growing and to starting this new chapter in my life. Want to join me?

Wild Woman Fest tickets

Here’s how you can learn more about the Wild Woman Fest:

Wild Woman Fest 2014

Want to go WILD with me? This song is very loosely related (I mean the title is Wild, Wild Love and it’s Friday and I’m ready to DANCE!) but it’s fun for the weekend! Join me next weekend at Wild Woman Fest 2014!

xoxo Kimmay via hurray Kimmay

Want a little free Hanky Panky?

Hurray for the 4th of July!

I feel like I already got my Independence Day fix with a trip to Robert Moses Beach along with great friends on Sunday and a gorgeous fireworks display in Astoria Park on Monday night. Despite the heat and an unfortunate run in with a giant wave (the bloody knee was nothing compared to my salt-logged nose and mouth) I had a fantastic time!

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So with today’s rainy, cloudy forecast, I’m happy to stay in, work on some projects and do a little online shopping and giveaway entering. What’s on my list? One of my FAVORITE underwear brands in the world: Hanky Panky. It’s no secret that I love hanky panky . . . both with and without the capital letters, if you get my drift. (In fact, you may remember my post in my Hurray for Lingerie column on Lingerie Briefs about trying out crotchless Hanky Panky underwear. No? Read it and tell me if you’d ever try them!)

I recently shared my Hanky Panky love affair and how fabulous, comfortable and fashionable they are in my Hurray for Lingerie post on Lingerie Briefs, so I thought I’d share a friend’s view on these sassy little thongs. Here’s my friend Britney’s point of view:

As a plus size woman, I was completely skeptical about even trying something (let alone thong underwear!!) that was “one size”.  ”One Size Fits All” usually translates into “One Size that Will NEVER Fit You”.  But so many of my friends and clients (I used to work in a well known bra salon) RAVED about them, so I finally broke down and gave them a try.

I went with the Original Rise Thong and now, I AM COMPLETELY OBSESSED!!  Not only did they fit (shocker!!) but they don’t dig in and they don’t leave lines!! Oh! and they come in a ton of different colors, so I can get them to match everything.  They are literally the most comfortable pair of underwear that I have ever owned/ worn.  I even wore them on my wedding day because every other pair of underwear I tried drove me nuts.  I am a total convert!

Hurray! Brit and I are not just friends and lingerie aficionados, but we both wore HP’s on our wedding days. She opted for a black original rise, and I went with a light blue low rise (my something blue!). As the proud owner of over 100 pairs of low rise Hanky Panky thongs (seriously) you’d think I just don’t need another pair, right? Wrong. When I got the chance for a complimentary pair from Bare Necessities with crystal personalization, I immediately chose the letters H-U-R-R-A-Y. Here they are:Hurray Hanky Panky Thong Hurray Kimmay Hurray for Lingerie.jpg

Want your own pair of free, personalized Hanky Panky underwear? Enter the Bare Necessities giveaway here, starting today July 4th and ending July 14th and you could be one of ten winners! Check out the whole HP selection here and tell me in the comments or via a Tweet which style and color you’ll choose to personalize.

HURRAY Hanky Panky Sweeps

Here’s a great 4th of July bonus: Hanky Panky underwear is MADE IN THE USA. Hurray!

How are you enjoying your Independence Day? Have you ever tried Hanky Panky underwear? What would you like your personalization to say?

xoxo Kimmay via hurray Kimmay

 

Lingerie Post Round Up

Hurray it’s Friday the 13th! I’ve had a very lovely day working on projects for clients, enjoying a lunch date with one friend in a pretty little Brooklyn neighborhood, reviewing my designer’s mood board for the new Hurray Kimmay, shopping and fresh organic lemonade with another friend, running in a rainstorm, and more!

And HURRAY a guest post that I submitted to the The Lingerie Addict went live today! Its founder, Cora Harrington, and I met up this past Wednesday for dessert at my favorite vegan restaurant, Blossom Cafe while she was in town in NYC. I had such a great time chatting about marriage with her, discussing the current industry beauty standards, and learning how to be my own boss. In honor of my post on TLA, here’s a round up of my most recent lingerie posts and goodness. Enjoy!

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How to Showcase or Hide Your Headlights – my guest post on The Lingerie Addict is a list of my favorite methods for keeping your nipples hidden or showing them off. Working with different kinds of women in my many years as a bra fitter, I’ve heard both sides of this debate but there’s one request that I get most often. Read on to find out!

Tasteful-ways-to-show-or-hide-your-bra-straps-hurray-kimmayShowing Bra Straps: Tacky or Tasteful - this is my very first VIDEO episode of Hurray for Lingerie! I popped by the Van de Velde office to discuss this topic with Jen Conselyea, AND get a sneak peek at the Fall/Winter Marie Jo collection. Check out the coolest decorative straps and decide for yourself if you want to flaunt them.

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Squeeming with Joy – OK before you judge, this little rubber corset is a game changer for my friend Caitlyn Becker, who gives it a go, says YES to the dress, and becomes Squeem obsessed. Would you try this shapewear sensation?

Should you wear a longline bra with your wedding dress hurray for LingerieShould You Wear a Longline Bra with your Wedding Dress? - Thanks to wedding season and my cousin Steph, I dive into the popular “what the heck should I wear under my wedding gown?” question. Plus, I show you what I wore under mine… which and included my “something blue”.

crotchlesspantiesIs Crotchless Crazy? – Ever wonder what it’s like to try out crotchless underwear? I did. So I tried them. Find out what happens when I test drive a little black lace number AND where you can find Ryan Gossling crotchless panties on Etsy. For real.

When to say goodbye to your bras via Hurray Kimmay (Kim of Linda's!)When to Say Goodbye to Your Bras - If you’re not sure if your bra drawer is full of dead bras, here’s a video and a few guidelines for you. Because, let’s face it: bras don’t last forever. Sarah Bernard gets some tough love and learns to let go and say goodbye to her dead bras!

Braducation 101 with Better TV and Kim Caldwell of Linda's on Hurray Kimmay BlogBraducation 101 on Better TV – Speaking of Sarah Bernard, here we are with my bra model, Megan, braducating the world on Better TV! This informative video contains some key facts about bras, bra fitting, and feeling fab.

Have a lingerie or bra fitting question? Send me an email at kimmay (at) hurraykimmay (dot) com and your question may be featured in an upcoming Hurray for Lingerie post! I’m happy to help you and help you feel your very best – underneath it all.

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Feel Fantastic in Five Days

HURRAY!

There are SO many great, wonderful, exciting, stressful, time consuming things going on in the Hurray Kimmay office (read: my Queens apartment). I am working like crazy to build a BRAND NEW hurraykimmay.com – including a new layout, new logo & branding, new columns, a fancy newsletter, exciting offers, and more. Just you wait – it will be worth it. I am about to burst at the seams with the goodness that is to come and just how great you are going to feel on the inside, outside, and underneath it all (TM). 

So stay tuned, dear friends, and be sure to get on the email list so you’ll be the fist to know about the latest and greatest. Sign up here.

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Don’t want to wait for the big reveal? Don’t worry! I’ve got a great dose of hurray for your day right now.

Recently, I joined a group of healthy, active, savvy women and men who are aiming to create a greener, cleaner, and healthier world. Because of them, I went from seeing the doctor every few months, taking loads of rx medicines, and suffering through sickness and stress all the time, to feeling the best I’ve ever felt. I’m proud to say that my new & improved HurrayKimmay.com will include an entire column of Hurray for Health, chock full of resources, recipes, tips and real medical data to help you feel your very best from the inside out.

Why I feel so darn good

Want to get started now? I just finished a 5 Day Body Reset Challenge with the Urban Detox Club and Shaklee and it was JUST what I needed to kick off the warm weather months right. And GOOD news for you: there’s another one starting up June 23rd! Sign up by June 16th, 2014 so you can get all of your provisions, resources and instructions and get ready to feel great. Seriously. Great. Here are the details:

The Results Are In: 

“My body feels so light and clean. No bloating or that stuffy feeling in my digestive tract. I also haven’t gotten on the scale yet, but I can feel there is less “fluffiness” around my waist”  - Newelle

We had such a great response from our first 5 day reset program this past week that we are offering it again. You will not believe the results that some of our resetters are getting in just 5 short days! The next round begins on Monday, June 23rd and will last ONLY 5 days. Don’t miss out on the opportunity to join our group that is losing inches, gaining energy, and feeling their best! 

You will be armed with:

  • 1 cannister of Shaklee 180 Smoothie mix (3 meals per day for 5 days) (my favorite shake that keeps me full and energized. I LOVE the cafe latte flavor, but the vanilla and chocolate are close runners up).
  • A full month’s worth of Shaklee Vitalizer to keep your healthy habit going (my favorite vitamins that I take every day!) 
  • Snack list
  • Shopping list
  • Private accountability group on Facebook

How do you get involved? 

Email me at kimmay@hurraykimmay.com by June 15th so that we can make your order by June 16th together and you can get started on June 23rd with the rest of the group. The basic investment is $121 and 5 days – but the vitamins & supplements, the network of like minded people, and the healthy habits last much longer.

Bonus>>> Since we’re friends, I’ll share a few of my favorite shake recipes and secret ingredients that aren’t included in the reset materials. You can enjoy the very same delicious and nutritious meals that I made (think cinnamon peaches & cream, and tropical breakfast shakes) after a bit of trial and error. Whatcha waiting for? Email me today :D

*All new orders will need to be placed by Monday 6/16 in order to get started by June 23rd.

Here are a few photos of the deliciousness and healthy meals I made throughout my body reset: 5 day Body Reset Challenge is here

” I have loads more energy and I have radically reduced my sugar cravings. The best part is that I don’t feel hungry at all. Yesterday I ran 6k in the park! I am looking forward to using all thi extra energy on my hike this weekend.”  - Anneka

Here’s to feeling happy and healthy!

xoxo Kimmay via hurray Kimmay

How to Save on Sexy Lingerie: Sample Sale!

If you know me, you know that great foundations are extremely important to me. I truly believe that investing in well fitting undergarments (and visiting your bra fitter!) is SO worth it. But I also love the artful, gorgeous stuff. In fact, I used to work for La Perla for years. If you haven’t seen La Perla, get on it. Some of the most glamorous lingerie, bras and underwear in existence. During my years with this luxe brand, I was lucky enough to have Ivana Nonnis as my boss. Ivana and I have since moved on to new adventures and we recently caught up in her magical lingerie showroom, I.N. Showroom, in NYC. She represents some of the hottest new brands in the business, and right now, you can score them at up to 70% off of the retail price. That’s right – it’s a SAMPLE SALE! Hurray!

After getting a bra fitting to determine your bra size, you’ll have a great starting point for browsing the sample sales. I shop sample sales to try new brands, explore different styles, and take a risk on something daring. I found two gorgeous Marlies Dekkers bra and underwear sets (the bottom two photos). One boasts a velvety print and longline design, and the other sports a menswear theme with houndstooth and (no, really) men’s suspenders! Plus, I indulged in a few cutesy undies, because they made me say “hurray!”

Want a silk robe, a designer bathing suit or a pretty camisole? Then this sample sale is for you. Don’t miss it!

LUXURY EUROPEAN LINGERIE NIGHTWEAR & SWIMWEAR

SAMPLE SALE & STOCK

265 W 37th Street 16th Floor Left (Corner of 8th Ave)

(212) 485-1755

 May 12th -16th

11AM-6PM

 CASH & CREDIT CARD ACCEPTED

 MARLIES DEKKERS – ARGENTOVIVO – AMULETTE AND MORE…

Sample Sale 1 Hurray Kimmay Sample Sale 2 Hurray Kimmay I love filling my bra drawer with gorgeous lingerie. It’s always been my philosophy that if someone else sees it… good for them. If not, I know that I have on a gorgeous bra or sexy panty. It puts a pep in my step, and makes me feel like that I can take on the world. Certainly a great reason to say “hurray!”

Have you ever gone to a sample sale? Where are your favorite places to hear about sales?  Will you visit this sample sale? Tell them that Kim sent you! 

xoxo Kimmay via hurray Kimmay

{Video} Award Winning Apple Bread Recipe

HK TV Dairy Free Apple Bread Recipe VIDEOHappy Mother’s Day!

I’m lucky enough to have several women to celebrate on Mother’s day: my aunts, my sisters-in-law, my step mom, my mother-in-law, my step mother-in-law, my Grandma, and especially my very own Mother. I always say that I’m her “mini me” because we look so much alike. When you inspect photos of when she was in her early 20s and when I was in my early 20′s, it’s hard to tell us apart!

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A few weeks ago I traveled to Florida for a “workcation” where I spent time with my Mom and family and they allowed me several hours each day to work on building the foundation for my budding business. During my stay, my Mom and I filmed our very own cooking segment for Hurray Kimmay TV. When I asked what she wanted to make, we quickly suggested her award winning Apple Bread. Yum! Below is our video and the recipe. Be sure to watch until the very end for a very real blooper from my Momma (and count how many times we mention how good it smells. OMG it smelled so gooooooood!)

Apple Bread Recipe (By, Sandra Peters) 

TOPPING INGREDIENTS:

  • 1/4 cup nuts (walnuts or pecans). Chopped.
  • 2/3 cup all-purpose flour
  • 4 Tbs. soft butter at room temperature (margarine for dairy-free!)
  • 1/2 cup packed brown sugar
  • 3/4 cup shredded coconut (optional)

DRY INGREDIENTS:

  • 2 cups sifted all-purpose flour
  • 1 1/2 cup white sugar
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 1 tsp cinnamon
  • 1/4 tsp all spice
  • 1/4 tsp powdered cloves

WET INGREDIENTS:

  •  1/2 cup salad oil (canola or vegetable oil)
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/3 cup milk (almond or coconut milk for dairy-free!)
  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees (F)
  2. Prepare bread pan. Lightly grease and flour.
  3. In a small bowl, mix together TOPPING ingredients using a pastry knife or fork and knife, and set aside.
  4. Whisk together DRY INGREDIENTS in a large bowl.
  5. In another bowl, mix WET INGREDIENTS.
  6. Core, peel and chop 2-3 apples (about 2 cups) into small 1/4-1/2 inch pieces.
  7. Pour apples into wet ingredients and stir to coat.
  8. Make a well (indentation) in the dry ingredients and pour wet ingredients and apples into well. Mix together.
  9. Pour batter into bread pan.
  10. Sprinkle topping on top of the batter.
  11. Bake until done. About 40-50 min for a 9×13 inch pan. About 55-60 min for a bundt or spring form pan.
  12. ENJOY! Note – apple bread freezes well for later!

One thing I learned from my Mom was if a problem arises, to get creative and go with the flow. For example, when we went to the grocery store for this Apple Bread recipe. . . we forgot to buy apples. What?! Luckily, we had two small apples on hand at the house and they ended up being JUST the perfect amount for the recipe. Additionally, my camera turned off several times without my knowledge while filming this episode. While I fumed, Mom kept her cool and said “I’m sure we can figure something out.” She was right. We did. So when I got home and realized that several segments from my “Kimmay Cam” (my phone) had not saved and I didn’t have close ups of about 1/4 of the video, I thought “it’s ok. I’ll figure something out.” And I did. Life is NOT perfect, but  with a little patience and creativity, you can make it into something really great. 

Wishing all of the Moms out there (including pet parents!) a happy Mother’s Day! Here’s my little baby cat, Bella, and I…

Hurray for Pet Parents on Mother's Day hurray kimmayWhat did you do to celebrate Mother’s Day today? Have a great day!

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{Video} Newborn baby bunnies! Easter Greetings from Hurray Kimmay

Hurray!

You may have noticed I’ve been missing from the past two Motivation Mondays. No? That’s OK. Yes? So sorry! But it’s all because I’m working on something bigger, better, and oh-so-wonderful. You may also remember that I started my very own, shiny, new company, Hurray Media. Well, I’ve been spending a lot of time building the business, my brand, my offerings, and staying true to my “why”. I’m having a swell time in Marie Forleo’s B-School, but I’m also a bit overwhelmed with so much to do. Starting your own company, working full time and taking a rigorous business course all at the same time is . . . a lot.

So I did what any self respecting, married, adult, business owner would do: I ran to my mommy. That’s right! I booked a last minute trip to Florida to visit my Mom and Step Dad in their new home, two of my brothers (I have five!), and my nieces and nephews. I left my husband to take care of the cat. I also had an agreement with my Mom and Step Dad that I would have time to work on my business. So between the home cooked meals, trips to the beach, and family time I WORKED my little business butt off.

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And while Florida is famous for its beaches, I know it for its farm life! My oldest brother lives on dirt road in a beautiful home with a plot of land filled with a catfish pond, horses, chickens, goats and … BABY BUNNIES. Just in time for Easter wishes! Watch this short video I put together of my nieces, nephews and I exploring the country life. I don’t know who was more in wonder – these small kids or this city girl!

PS: Stay tuned for a cooking tutorial that I filmed with my Mom and learn how to make her award winning Apple Bread! 

Wishing you and yours a happy spring, a wonderful Easter, and lots of love!

xoxo Kimmay via hurray Kimmay

Motivation Monday: Ask for Help

Hello to another Spring monday! The weather is CRAZY today, and my day has been crazy, too. It’s late, but it’s here. Time for Motivation Monday.

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Today’s topic is a really hard one for me: when to ask for help. I’m a bit of a stubborn, do it all, perfectionist that has a hard time asking for help. It’s hard for a few reasons:

First, I don’t like asking for help because I fear that it makes me look weak or incapable.

Second, I fear that I’m giving away my power when I bring in someone else on a project or task. I’m a bit of a control freak.

And third, I feel guilty that I’m asking someone else to spend their energy working on something for me. Sound familiar? Then read on…

Learning how and when to ask for help is an ongoing lesson in my life. I’ve just shared why it’s difficult for me to do so, but that doesn’t mean I don’t do it. Remember with me a few of the moments when I did ask for a helping hand and was so glad that I did:

Recently I asked my friend Britney to help me clean and organize my cluttered office and living room area. I was embarrassed to ask her to help me for fear that she’d see old paperwork from 2005 and judge me when I a very real fear of letting it go. It was extremely kind of Britney to help me, but it never would have happened had I not let her into my home and then put my trust in her. I had offers for help from my husband and even another friend, but it took something inside of me and a very special trust in Britney to finally say YES to some help. Am I glad I accepted her help? You bet!

A few weeks ago I had a panic attack on the crowded 6 train in Manhattan. The train was far underground, bursting at the seams with people, very warm, and very stuck. We stayed stuck for about 15 minutes, which in “stuck on a crowded 6 train” time is FOREVER. I’m prone to panic attacks, but with a new yoga practice and a better handle on stress, I went from having two a week to once every two months, to rarely having any at all. Because of that, I did not have my low dose of medicine on hand, or water. I felt the panic rising. I started to take off my jacket, my scarf, I scrambled around in a tiny area looking for a breath of fresh air, wishing that I could get out of the locked doors. If you’ve ever been through a panic attack, you know what I’m talking about here. If you haven’t, please understand that all logic ceases to exist, and though I logically knew there was nothing to be afraid of, and no reason to panic, my body and mind went into survival mode.

Something that elevates my panic attacks is the fear that those around me will think that I’m crazy or overreacting – it’s a fear of being misunderstood. It totally multiplies my condition. I was terrified to reach out and tell someone what was going on, or even ask for a sip of water. But I have been through this before, and I knew what would happen if I didn’t…so I did it. I steered clear of the equally nervous man in front of me gnawing on his fingernails and, with big eyes and a trembling voice, asked the woman seated next to him, “Excuse me, do you have any water?” She hesitated for a second, then said “I do… but it’s mine that I drink out of.” In other words, “Yes, but not for you.” Embarrassed and feeling foolish, I did not tell her why I needed it and simply smiled and said “OK, I totally understand. Thank you.” and went back into fidgety squirrel mode. I tried to take deep breaths, I tried not to cry. Obviously, something was up, so she softly asked me “Are you ok?” and with what seemed like no other option, I admitted to her “I’m just having a little bit of a panic attack. I’m so sorry.” I don’t know what I was apologizing for, but it felt like the right thing to do. Instead of telling me to get over it, or to calm down, she looked me right in the eye and said “I totally get it. I get those sometimes. Would you like to sit down?” In the midst of what felt like a life crisis, she was suddenly a savoir. A seat! YES! I could sit down, and she understood. She got it. She knew I wasn’t crazy! Immediately I answered “Yes! Thank you so much!” And she lovingly stood up, gave me her seat, and asked “would you like someone to talk to?” What she was offering me was really help. She knew I needed it, and she magically offered it to me. As embarrassed and as frantic as I was, I was equally thankful. While we chatted, she cheerfully told me she was on her way to a job interview, and would probably be late. I told her I was so sorry to hear that and I hoped that they understood and she got the job. She brushed off her own worries, smiled, and stayed connected with me while I sat there, trying to keep it together. While this was happening, I realized how helpful and unselfish this person was being… and I didn’t even know her name. So I asked her for it. Vicky, she replied. I thanked Vicky many, many times. 

When I finally got off of the train and made the agonizing crawl toward the sweet fresh air of Lexington Avenue, my body relaxed, my adrenaline finally dissipated, and I wept uncontrollably for the entire walk to work. I finally knew I was OK and my body reacted with a sweet, tearful release. In order to not look like a crazy person (again, still worried about this) walking down the street with tears streaming down my face, I called my husband. I just needed someone to be on the phone with me. When he didn’t pick up, I left a message that must have sounded completely ridiculous. It went something like this: “HELLO ::: sobbing ::: I just want you :::: sobbing ::: to know that ::: sobbing ::: I’m ok :: giant breath :: I’m just having a ::: sobbing ::: physical reaction to my ::: sobbing ::: panic attack I had ::: sobbing ::: on the train.” Realizing that this could only go on for a few blocks, I called up Britney again. Thank God she could take my call and again, didn’t judge me when I told her what had happened and how I just needed someone on the phone with me until I got to work. Britney saves the day, once again!

I don’t want to know what would have happened had I not reached out to Vicky for help. I also don’t want to know what would have happened had she not been kind enough to help me. Luckily, I don’t have to. I reached out for help and I got it.

Asking for help is not easy. I very much understand this. But in most cases, it’s worth the risk.

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I came across a great article about this very topic by Mike Robbins in The Huffington Post. Here is a portion of that article:

Make Genuine Requests, without Attachment. A “genuine” request can be accepted or declined, without any consequence. In other words, if we get really upset when someone says “no” to us, not only were we attached to the outcome, it probably wasn’t a real request to begin with (it was a demand). When we ask for what we want, without being attached to the response, we have more freedom to ask and ultimately our chances of getting what we want are greatly increased.

Be Easy To Support.
There are some specific things we can do to make it easier to support us. Such as:

  • Be open to the coaching and feedback of others
  • Thank people for their support
  • Let people do things to support us in their own unique way instead of micro-managing them (this one is often tough for me)
  • Allow people’s support when it is offered

Give Your Support to Others Generously. 
When we put our attention on supporting other people, the universe has a way of returning the favor. It may or may not always come back to us from the people we help specifically, and that’s OK. We want to do our best not to “keep score,” as many of us often do, but instead to look for opportunities to genuinely help those around us. When we do this, we remind ourselves of the power of support and we experience it as the true “win-win” it is.

Today’s Motivation Monday topic was really hard for me to share, but I’m glad I did. I’ve been thinking about this topic quite a bit, and I’ve already put my own advice into action. While I’m taking Marie Forleo’s B-School course, I’ve met with some other entreperuers and asked for their advice, guidance, and opinions. It’s very against my nature to do so, but the results of my endeavors have been tremendous! I’m learning, I’m connecting, and I’m even able to help others. And all from asking: can you help me?

Can you think of an example in your life where you were too scared or too stubborn to ask for help? What would have been the worst thing that could have happened if you had asked for help? Maybe that you’d be embarrassed, or look foolish? What if you asking for help would actually get the results you craved and made you look like a go-getter? What is driving your request for help? Find someplace in your life where you can genuinely request someone’s help, or take it where it was offered. And don’t forget to look for opportunities where you can help someone else, too!

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Motivation Monday: Practice Makes Perfect

Hi there, Monday!

practice makes perfect or at least progress via hurray kimmay::Original art source::

Welp, I had to change up my topic for today because I got a bit behind in my editorial schedule. First of all, I’m juggling quite a few things right now: my full time job at Linda’s, my budding media company, a major overhaul in our living room/office area, a serious delay on our new furniture, and an upcoming performance with the Astoria Symphonic Choir. Phew! Things have not been going very smoothly today, so instead of boo-hooing about it, I’ve decided to switch up my topic and give you a sweet little preview of the Mozart music that I’ll be furiously working on this week with the choir.

We’ll be singing Mozart’s Great Mass in C Minor, along with a few selections from Mendelssohn’s Elijah. It’s really gorgeous music… and pretty tricky stuff. At one point, the Mozart piece splits into two separate choirs with eight different lines of music being sung at the very same time. Confusing much? Yes! As we got closer to this week’s collaboration with a conduction conference, it became pretty clear that our choir (including myself) was not very prepared for the performance. While we’d been diligently plugging away and making great progress on the music, we simply hadn’t covered everything with the thoroughness that the pieces required. To put it plainly, we hadn’t practiced enough. So now we’re playing catch up, cramming in extra rehearsals and studying on our own. And I realized that had we each been studying on our own to begin with, little by little, practicing everyday (instead of just the Mondays that we meet as a group), we probably wouldn’t be in this spot.

This revelation seems obvious, but on a larger scale, it’s a pretty big deal. A little practice, every day, for a new habit, a diet, acts of kindness, meditation, music, a relationship – you name it!- will pay off big in the end. I mean, do you remember college? Cramming for tests rarely pays off, am I right? The material takes time to soak in, and the three hours of sleep and energy drinks takes quite the toll on your mind. Same goes for the rest of life. It’s hard to learn to suddenly be a good friend or a responsible coworker if you haven’t been practicing each day. It’s easier to be a loving partner and a more patient parent if you practice doing it more often.

So what can you put into practice today? What can you practice little, by little to “perfect” before long? I’m confident that our choir will be ready and sounding awesome on Sunday March 30th, but these past two weeks have been a lesson learned: practice makes perfect… or at least, progress!

xoxo Kimmay via hurray Kimmay